Some of you know, I am horrible at "living life." No, that's not what I mean... let me explain. I am constantly declining invites because I have to work or clean. We aren't going anywhere today, mommy has to (whatever) is something I tell my kids all the time. So we stay at home, me trying to catch up with the uncatchable, and the kids wishing we were somewhere else, at least for a little while.
I also let obligations and what has been termed "reverse perfectionism" take over my life. For example, I was invited to a barbecue on Saturday. I also had to drive my kids to their dad's, and I promised I would spend time with my mom. Traffic was horrendous, and I didn't end up getting back until 4. So instead of picking up mom and heading over to the bbq for an hr or so, I decided since I was already late and didn't have much time left with mom, we would just stay home.
I do this constantly. I have been getting better, with the help of those who know me best. Just yesterday, a friend was having another bbq (I love the summer!). I knew I would end up arriving very late, I had to wait for my kids to get dropped off. She said to come anyway, even if it was just as everyone was leaving. She knows me and knows I wouldn't come late unless invited to do so. Love friends like that! Well, I love all my friends, but still, you get the idea. She "called me out" so to speak, and I think I might need that more often.
Next weekend is a camping trip. I can't actually camp out, my mom leaves early the next morning to go back home. But there is no reason why I can't come and stay the day. Or go back after I drop off mom at the airport. I was thinking of not going because I don't want to drive there and back and there, etc. But my kids are so excited to be going, even though we aren't camping over. So I think God is trying to tell me that it's okay to start living life rather than always waiting for situations to be perfect in order to participate.
Now if you'll excuse me, I have to get to work. LOL!!! No, seriously, I do. I know work can't always come first in my life, but we gotta eat :)
God's blessings on your day,
Shellie - AKA One Christian Mom
1 comment:
I do that a lot of times, too. One thing that helped me was getting my driver's license switched over (Croatian to International) so now I can drive my kids where we need to go. It has helped me to get out more...leave the housework or other work for another day. But it's hard when there is so much to do and so little time. :) Isn't it? Visiting from Buildeth Her House FB page: A Little R & R (www.littlerandr.org)
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